You’ve learned it from self-help books, advice columns, and Dr. Phil: Communication is key to a healthy relationship. But what if your loved one is a poker-faced mystery on four legs, staring silently out the window for hours or meowing loudly as she prowls your bedroom at 5 a.m.?
For first-time cat owners, a kitty’s emotions, wants, and needs can seem as inexplicable as the Great Sphinx. Cats lack the facial expressiveness of dogs, they’re generally quieter, and their behaviors can be harder to interpret.
But this doesn’t mean that the feline mystique is completely impenetrable. You can better understand your furry friend by paying attention to her vocalizations, body postures, and daily routines. In time, you may become so attuned to your kitty’s personality and habits that you’re able to detect subtle changes in her mood and even recognize health problems before physical signs of illness appear.
Your cat’s vocabulary may seem limited, but you can learn to associate the sounds she makes with certain moods or desires.
The all-purpose “meow” can be a greeting, a command, an objection, or an announcement, like “Here’s your mouse!” Chirps and trills are how a mother cat tells her kittens to follow her, and if you have more than one cat, they will often converse with each other this way. (If your kitty chirps at you, she may want to lead you somewhere—probably to her food bowl.) Chattering is the strange noise your cat makes when she’s sitting at the window watching birds or squirrels. Her rumbling purr is usually a sign of contentment, but she may sometimes purr when she’s anxious or sick as a way to comfort herself, like a child sucking his thumb.
Growling, hissing, and spitting indicate that your cat is annoyed, frightened, angry, or defensive. The yowl or howl is a long, drawn-out meow with a few possible meanings: your cat is scared, in pain, looking for a mate, or has captured prey.
But sounds are only part of the story. “Vocalizations … don’t occur in a vacuum, says Suzanne Hetts, Ph.D., a certified applied animal behaviorist with Animal Behavior Associates in Littleton, Colo. “There’s body language communications that are being sent at the same time.”
For example, does your cat meow and arch her back to meet your hand when you pet her? This means she’s enjoying the contact with you and inviting more. Does she meow and shrink under your touch? She’s trying to tell you to save the petting for later; she’s not interested right now.
Missing these signs is common in feline-human relationships, says Hetts, especially with first-time cat owners. Clear signals like hissing or growling are hard to miss—or misinterpret—but much of kitty communication is more subtle. Watch your cat’s eyes, ears, tail, and posture for clues to how she’s feeling and what she may be trying to tell you.
The context and setting can also help you interpret ambiguous vocalizations, says John Wright, Ph.D., a certified applied animal behaviorist at Mercer University in Georgia. “For example, a meow in front of you in the kitchen where you’re fixing the cat’s food might have a different meaning than the cat coming inside from the deck and seeing you and meowing,” he says. “They both may include a meow, but the actual significance to the cat may be a bit different.”
After spending enough time with a new cat, you will likely begin to associate specific sounds with certain situations. Her repertoire may include the “Hello!” meow, the “Get me out of this carrier!” meow, and the “Feed me now!” meow, among others.
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Chatty Cattys and Strong, Silent Types
While most dogs will bark an alert when a stranger knocks at the door, your cat is likely to keep mum. This doesn’t mean she’s indifferent to household comings and goings, just that her evolutionary history has adapted her for a quieter reaction.
“It would probably be more adaptive for the cat not to vocalize if something scary happens,” says Wright. “It’s both predator and prey in terms of its breeding history.”
Dogs’ ancestors are pack animals, while cats descend from the African wildcat, a generally solitary creature. Because of this, the entire character of cat communication differs from that of dogs. “Cats use vocalizations much more to communicate with people than with other cats,” says Hetts. “Most of their communication [with other cats] is designed to avoid one another.”
But while some cats rarely make a peep, others won’t let you get a word in edgewise. Kittens who are handled often and well socialized may turn into more vocal adults, says Hetts. And certain breeds, like Siameses and Abyssinians, are loquacious by nature.
Cats can also become increasingly vocal as they age, meowing loudly and frequently. Two possible reasons for this, says Wright, are age-related dementia and deteriorating eyesight. A cat who feels anxious or confused may meow to seek reassurance. Hearing loss can also cause a kitty to vocalize louder than usual because she can’t determine her volume. (Any pronounced behavior change should trigger a trip to the vet to make sure your cat isn’t ill or in pain.)
Whether your cat talks all day or is a feline of few words, becoming more fluent in catspeak can enhance your relationship with your pet and give you a glimpse of life from another perspective. “Once you start to pay attention to it … it’ll take on a new meaning,” says Wright.
And since domestic cats have spent thousands of years cultivating the meow to better communicate with their human friends, it’s only fair that we pay attention.